July 23, 2009

Work Types

I think there are two types of people at work. The first, are those that come, do their job and go home. These people don't need to be overly chatty with their coworkers because they aren't dependent on them for emotional support or friendship. They are there to do a job, and if you don't like them, it's no skin off their backs. These aren't necessarily people who dislike their jobs or their coworkers, but they keep their personal and professional lives very separate.

My boyfriend falls into that first group. In fact, it's a miracle we're dating because we met at work. He's the guy who eats lunch in his car every day so he can listen to his satellite radio and take a little cat nap. He'd rather work alone on his tasks so he can get them done. But he is also a man who truly loves his job - it is his passion. He just doesn't care to get caught up in the office politics or drama. His coworkers are simply that; he would never call them friends.

And then there's me. More than three years after leaving Corporate America, I still have dinner dates with a group of girls I call my friends from that job. People like me crave that social interaction in the workplace. I, too, try to avoid office gossip (okay... I don't mind hearing it, I just do everything in my power to make sure I'm not a part of it), but I also recognize that the majority of my waking hours are spent in the workplace - I need friends at work! I perform better when I know I'm surrounded by those that support me. Whenever I start a new job, my biggest anticipation is related to finding a place to fit in.

Because I crave these friendships, I was nervous about the open position on our team for this upcoming year. I didn't know who we'd "get stuck with," and I was additionally nervous because I knew I'd have to plan with this person. This caused me a lot of anxiety because I worked so well with my team last year, and I wanted that same experience. I kept trying to tell myself that it didn't have to be a friend to be a good working relationship, but I knew in my heart of hearts that that's what I longed for.

Two weeks ago, we interviewed "the new girl." She had a very impressive resume, but I wanted to be present for the interview so I see for myself if she'd be a good fit. The interview went well... but I'm no fool. I've been tricked by that process in the past, so I was still holding out. Our principal hired her immediately, and she and I set a date to meet so we could go through the curriculum. Last week, at our 5 hour meeting, all of my anxieties washed away. I love this new girl. We are two peas in a pod, and we've both already established that we're going to be BFFs!

I can't tell you how good it feels to know that my new partner will be a friend!

1 comment:

  1. AWW! I have a huge smile on my face right now! I am SO happy to be working with you! You are an amazing teacher and I am privileged to me working along side of you!! I am glad it all worked out!