February 6, 2010

Do you Blame Yourself?

That is the question Barbara Walters asked of Jenny Sanford during last night's 20/20 episode, during which they discussed the affair of her husband, South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, with an Argentinean woman that devastated and ultimately destroyed their marriage.

Something about that question was absolutely appalling to me.

Yes, I recognize that many women have the tendency to blame themselves for their husbands' infidelities and that it naturally brings up several personal insecurities. What did I do wrong? Was I not good/smart/sexy/pretty enough? Did I not love him enough? What does she have that I don't?

But, in my opinion, those are deeply personal thoughts and not meant to be shared on national television. And there was something almost victimizing or accusatory in Barbara asking this poor woman if she felt she was to blame, as if she was suggesting that it was at least partially her fault that her husband was unfaithful.

For the record, she responded that she did not blame herself for her husband's infidelities. I, however, wanted to hear her say, "No, Barbara. I blame him!"


  1. Wish I would have saw this interview. What a crazy question! I'm with you I would have loved to hear her put the entire blame on HIM!

  2. that woman has too much tact to discuss whose fault it is. i like her.

  3. If the woman didn't want to talk about her "dirty laundry" don't be interviewed on national television! Easy way to avoid THAT question.