July 16, 2014

You Don't Have to Try

Colbie Caillat is a singer/songwriter I've loved for years. He'd probably never admit it, but even Joel has taken a liking to her. When we're in the car, and he can see that I'm antsy, he'll sometimes offer, "Do you want to put on a book or listen to Colbie Caillat?" He's pretty awesome about tending to my needs and wants like that!

If you follow me on Facebook, you've probably already seen that I'm obsessed with her latest video, "Try" and am declaring it my new anthem. I've basically been listening to this on repeat for the past week. You can also read a great interview with Elle Magazine about her inspiration for this song and video. I've already saved a copy of it to use as an Article of the Week (I like to provide multiple options to meet different interests and reading levels) because I think it will bring up some amazing conversations in the classroom or small group. 

My favorite lyrics from this song:

Put your makeup on
Get your nails done
Curl your hair
Run the extra mile
Keep it slim
So they like you
Do they like you?

Wait a second!
Why should you care what they think of you?
When you're all alone by yourself, do you like you?
Do you like you?

I feel personally convicted when I watch this video because I know I always feel more confident when I'm in presentation mode (perfect hair, makeup, cute outfit, etc.). Not that I do this on a regular basis, because I don't, but I definitely notice the difference in how I feel on the inside with my outer appearance better fits the mold. You may recall that I took part in No-Makeup November several years ago with the women of amy Alma mater. This was an eye-opening experience for me because I learned that even though I don't wear a ton of makeup, I'm still pretty dependent on it. When I taught at the charter school, where makeup was forbidden for students, it was much easier to go without because we were all the same (it helped that much of our staff went without as well). It makes me imagine how great our world would be if natural was the norm instead of this glamorized version of ourselves. 

On a similar note, I LOVE this video! Unfortunately, it's not appropriate for school, but I love it anyway!

Not only is that video absolutely AMAZING (I especially love the male dancer), but these lyrics really speak to me:

My mama she told me don't worry about your size
She says like boys like a little more booty to hold at night
You know I won't be no sick-figure, silicone Barbie doll
So if that's what you're into, then go ahead and move along

I can tell you that it's been a VERY long journey for me to learn to love myself, especially because of my size. For the majority of my existence, I've believed the lies from our media, telling me I'm "less than" and "unworthy" because of my curves. And while I wouldn't say that the battle is won, I'm definitely making progress. It helps that I'm part of an amazing community of women who support each other in this endeavor. 

If I could influence my female students in one way, it would be to help them find their self-worth in who they are as people rather than how they look on the outside. And while I wish I could protect them forever from any messages to the contrary, I can certainly help them filter out those messages by telling them over and over that they are wonderful and worthy!


  1. I absolutely love the song Try! What a great message! I bought it from iTunes only yesterday. I agree with you though... I usually only put on eyeliner but I would not feel right without it.
    Grade 4 Buzz

  2. omg - I think we were meant to be friends...i LOVE that second video you posted. Never heard of her or that song, so thanks for sharing! Have you heard John Legend's You and I? Kinda a similar thing, too...check that one out!

  3. LOVE Colbie...I often play her in my classroom for the kids. Calms me...calms them. LOVE this song and the video message. I especially love the All About That Bass video too. I can so see me...in her!
    Rockin' and Lovin' Learnin'

  4. Wow, what a powerful and beautiful video! Thanks for sharing!

  5. Wow, what a powerful and beautiful video! Thanks for sharing!

  6. I need to bookmark this or find a way to remind myself to go find the lyrics in a few months. Such a wonderful message in the lyrics and would love to have the discussion with my whole homeroom class at some point. Thank you for sharing!